untukmu [for you]
this whole practice is for YOU fellow adoption survivors… for us… centering OUR past, present and future lives and experiences.
i hope you will feel safe here… to read, feel (or not) and meet another adoption survivor (me! i’m wavingggg).
we are truly better together! my inner children and i can’t wait to meet you and yours…
harapanku [my hope]
as an indigenour person, i believe in the power of sharing and healing in community…
i hope that by sharing what happened to me, what has helped me “come out of the fog” **, find my voice and fight for my/our rights (including search, reunion & solidarity with other indigenouse relatives) will help another adoption survivor make sense of this soul wounding… and the complexities and nuance of our lives.
i would like to be here with & for you, if you will have me. if you need someone to hear your story, be with you while you navigate coming out of the fog, reunion, all the arms of identity, CPTSD and what can transpire because of adoption, i endeavour to be here.
i will also share what continues to empower me through life. i hope we can co-build a local community of adoption survivors here in singapura where we meetup, learn, support each other, have fun, grieve, laugh and thrive together. if you are not in singapura, i am here for you & with you as well. i truly understand the isolation and loneliness we adoption survivors can feel/face. as long as you are on mother earth, lets be together. isolation kills us and connection heals us. (if our foster brethen would like to join us, we are here for you too!)
and one day soon, ultimately breathe sighs of relief and cheer (probably mourn so loudly) when colonization and the multi-billion dollar industry that promotes the “demand and supply” of children is abolished.
selamat pulang kawanku [welcome home my friend].
** “coming out of the fog” – is a phrase adoption survivors/adoptees use to describe the coming out of the propaganda/”beautiful narratives” of adoption and into the realities of what happened to us. This process can be slow or fast and/or non-linear. It can be the “beginnings” of our path of self discovery and healing. It can include the physical, mental, emotional, spiritual memories, pain, remembrance, injustice, deathly fear, deep sorrow…
for me it is a reclamation of my entire existence… a rebirth, a relove, a coming home to past, present and future me.
sebulan sekali [once a month]
for now, a monthly blog post (every third Friday, starting in June) sharing what i have learned/unlearned and what helps me daily.
akan datang [to come] – decolonizing & reindigenizing group workshops and courses.
memerlukan sokongan?
[in need of support?]
i am here…
in my experience, our trauma was the most painful to even think about. having another adoption survivor who truly understands witness me, has been the key in even “looking at/into” this soul wound.
i will not crosstalk nor give unsolicited comments/advice/platitudes (especially the ones kept people have lobbed onto us).
i am so proud of you/us. jom, lets do this together!
